Trying not to loose sight of the difference

July 31, 2008

Last week I received a phone call from D and my friend’s fiance.  When I answered she was full of tears and told me that she had called off their wedding.   All of her reasons were valid and while we were talking she confided in me that as the process moved along, she felt like people were tying the marriage up into the wedding and she had begun to loose sight of the difference.  I think she is by far, one of the bravest women I know and I hope with all my heart that some day I get a phone call saying that they just got back from city hall but for now, I think she making the best decision.  So, in honor of her, here are five differences between a wedding and a marriage, as I see them.  I am by no means an expert. 

1- a wedding is a day/ a marriage is a lifetime

2- a wedding is public/ a marriage is private

3- a wedding focus on all the little details/ a marriage is about the big picture

4- a wedding is a celebration/ a marriage is a commitment

5- a wedding starts your life together/ a marriage is your life together


3 Responses to “Trying not to loose sight of the difference”

  1. you are incredibly wise. I’m amazed at the fact that you’ve been married for a few years and know more about marriage than most married people I know, including those who have been married for way longer than you and I have. I am truly blessed to have met you.

  2. Mike Says:

    bravo to you for this perfect list. but, bravo to your friend. guts and brass ones to make that call.

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